Here's a few things I've learned in my thirties...
There is beauty in vulnerability. It is honest, powerful and a good way to live an authentic life.
When we make ourselves vulnerable, we open ourselves up to others and make deeper connections with people. Relationships are strengthened when someone says 'I need help' 'I'm finding this hard' 'I don't know what I'm doing'.
It costs nothing to be kind and it makes us happier people. It takes more energy to hold resentment and to hate than it does to forgive and be kind.
Little things you do for others may be big things to them. Even a smile can change someone's day.
And don't forget about yourself. Being kind to yourself is such a nice gift to give yourself, don't you think?
Discern what matters and then ...
Don't waste time and energy on things that don't matter
The older I get, the less time I have for sweating the small stuff. There are things that matter and things that just really don't. Work out what matters to you and immerse yourself in those things. Move away from people who bring you down and get rid of things that make you heavy.
Now is the time
Because there is no better time than right now. Today. This moment. We are living and dying at the same time, so all we really have for sure, is right now. Don't dwell on what's already behind you and don't search too far ahead.
If you have your health, you have everything
Nothing matters more than the health of your family and yourself. Because once you don't have it? Nothing else matters. So what i'm saying is, look after yourself.
Don't search for happiness. Find contentment instead.
Life has its ups and downs - accept that and try to roll with it. Some days will be horrible and other days will be full of joy. Perfection doesn't exist so stop the endless, exhausting search for it. Give yourself a break and just LET GO. What you do and who you are is enough.
These are so simple and so yummy for a quick morning or afternoon snack and make the perfect lunchbox treat.
2 medium sized ripe bananas
1 1/2 cups oats
1/3 cup choc chips
Pre heat oven to 200C
Mash the banana until smooth and all the lumps are removed.
Stir in the oats and choc chips.
Place heaps teaspoons onto a lined or greased baking tray.
Bake in oven for approx 10-15 minutes (until lightly golden).
Let them cool slightly before serving.
Keep in air tight container in the fridge.
Today I took my three to the beach, grabbing the camera before we headed out the door.
I'm so glad I did. I am keen to start taking more photos again and practising shooting on manual.
2018 for me is being content with the fact that life has its ups and downs. We have our highs and we have our lows and the majority of in-between is just, well, rather boring. Boring is okay with me. Boring is sometimes wonderful in its normalcy.
I am trying to teach my children this as well. These past school holidays have had many highs and many lows. Emotions are all over the place and it feels like we still haven't caught up on much rest.
When we do manage a simple day at home the children wander around saying they are hungry or bored - this is always followed by an incredulous look from me. There are Christmas gifts which still haven't even been played with! I quietly like that they can experience 'boredom' as it means they need to find something to do, discover, search, create without an obvious guideline.
A 'boring' life suits me just fine for the majority of the time. It doesn't have to have negative connotations. It's the in-between of high and low, excitement and dullness, happy and sad. Really I think we expect to be happy and we expect our kids to be happy too much of the time. I know I spend way too much of my time trying to make my children happy. The fact is, they are okay. They are cared for, well fed and they are loved - probably living a life that's amazing in comparison to many unfortunate children in this world.
So yes, boring is okay. Boring is more than okay, and I for one am at peace with the boring, simple, ordinary days.
- The new year has arrived and it feels funny writing 2018.
- The house looks as it usually does during the school holidays, messy and well lived in.
- I am feeling tired and sluggish, not unusual for me in this hot, humid weather.
- The school holidays have sadly flown by, i've enjoyed them so very much.
- I am being proactive with my 'to do' list of backing up photos, creating a new budget, making appointments that should have been made months ago, refinancing for a better deal...
- Spaghetti Bolognese is on the menu tonight - we haven't had it in a while and the children started asking for it again.
- We have trialed one month free with Netflix and I'm beginning to think it might be here to stay.
- Our conversations at home have turned to more renovations - this time bathroom and laundry plans, and possibly, maybe even a pool...
- Bookclub is tonight. I finished the book a few weeks ago, it was a wonderful read called 'Where'd You Go Bernadette?'
- I really need to mop the floors (again!?) nothing stays clean around here for long.
- Our poor dog is limping. It must be her back knee again. I hope we can help her to be pain free.
- I am honestly in disbelief and denial that my eldest son is heading into year three at school.
- At night I research countries that we'd like to travel to. So much to plan and look forward to.
- I think I want to print more family photos for our walls. Something about framed photos on the wall makes me so content.
- Days spent at the beach are some of our favourites. Even when we don't feel like packing up the car and driving there it is always great once we hit the sand and salty water.
- I have been re-inspired to blog a little more lately. I have missed this place, it's good to be back.